THE CYCLE OF NARCISSISM

Narcissistic abuse usually follows a predictable pattern:

1. Love-Bombing: Overwhelming affection to gain your trust.

2. Devaluation: Subtle criticism and neglect to break your confidence.

3. Discard: Leaving or emotionally withdrawing when you’re no longer useful.

4. Hoovering: Returning to restart the cycle when they sense you pulling away.

This pattern keeps you trapped in confusion and self-doubt. You will be filled with a lot of anxiety because you are always second-guessing yourself and your actions. They use this cycle to tighten their graps on you emotionally and mentally.

WHY IT WORKS

Narcissists manipulate your mind and emotions with:

- Highs and Lows: The good times make you tolerate the bad.

- Self-Doubt: They blame you for their behavior, making you question yourself.

- False Promises: They promise change but never follow through.

Their chaos becomes your normal. You become unstable so much that instability becomes your new normal.

You want to breakout? Recognizing the cycle is the first step to breaking free. Know when you're being manipulated. That alone is a huge step towards breaking free from the narcissists trap.

HOW TO BREAK THE CYCLE

- Recognize the pattern—awareness empowers you.

- Set boundaries—refuse to engage in their games.

- Seek support—having a strong network helps you rebuild your confidence.

Breaking the cycle isn’t easy, but your peace is worth it.

Narcissists can make you feel trapped and powerless—but freedom is closer than you think. It may take some work, but it is worth it. The sooner you find help, the quicker you can recover yourself and flourish.

Love and light

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