Gift J Mthimkhulu

I’ve always enjoyed spending time with older men; wise, experienced, often with stories that teach valuable lessons. Some are happily married, others divorced, but there’s always something to learn in our conversations. One day, while sitting at the car wash as we often did; chatting about politics, soccer, life, and love. The topic of marriage came up. I was in my late 20s, freshly divorced, and searching for insight. An older man I used to know shared this piece of advice that still shocks me to this day. He said, “When you marry a woman, be very strict in the first two years. If she disobeys, discipline her immediately, lay hands on her so she fears you. Fear, according to him, leads to obedience. After two years, you can relax because by then, fear will keep her in line.” I was horrified. That wasn’t wisdom, it was abuse dressed in tradition. That day, I realized something powerful: not all advice is worth listening to, even if it comes from someone older or seemingly wise. Age doe...

It’s Not What Many Think. Let’s clear something up, because the enemy thrives in confusion and mislabeling. Too many people think the "Jezebel spirit" is all about sexual immorality. While seduction played a role in Queen Jezebel’s story, the real root of this spirit runs much deeper and far more dangerous. The spirit of Jezebel is not just about lust. It’s about control, manipulation, deception, and the usurping of leadership and godly authority. This spirit doesn’t always wear revealing clothes or come with flirtation. Sometimes, it shows up in the church with a smile and scripture, twisting truth to suit personal agendas. It silences prophetic voices. It disrupts unity. It operates through fear and intimidation, seeking to control those called by God. Queen Jezebel orchestrated murders, promoted idolatry, and stood in direct opposition to God’s prophets—not because of physical seduction, but because of her desire to manipulate power and control the narrative. Jesus Himself...

Jealousy is not just a feeling. It is a spirit, a dangerous and destructive spirit that hides behind smiles, flattery, and silence. It operates silently in families, workplaces, churches, and even among friends. It is the spirit that resents your progress, your joy, your calling, your anointing. In the Bible, this spirit was behind Cain’s murder of Abel — “And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering: But unto Cain... He had not respect… And Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and slew him.” (Genesis 4:4-8) Joseph’s brothers were so gripped by this spirit that they threw him into a pit and sold him into slavery. “And they hated him yet the more for his dreams, and for his words.” (Genesis 37:5-11) King Saul, filled with envy at David’s favor, sought to kill him: “And Saul eyed David from that day and forward.” (1 Samuel 18:9) But what is even more dangerous is that jealousy is witchcraft in disguise. It may not use charms or incantations, but the evil desires of the heart ...

In Matthew 2, we find a disturbing yet revealing story. Wise men from the East came to Jerusalem asking, “Where is He who has been born King of the Jews?” (Matthew 2:2). When King Herod heard this, he was troubled, and all Jerusalem with him (Matthew 2:3). Though Jesus was still a child, not yet preaching, not yet performing miracles, and not yet gathering followers, the mere news of His birth—the announcement of His potential—sent fear and insecurity into the heart of Herod. Herod’s response? Genocide. He commanded that all male children two years old and under in Bethlehem and its surroundings be killed (Matthew 2:16). Why? Because he wanted to eliminate the possibility of another king rising. He wasn’t fighting a crowned ruler—he was fighting a baby with destiny. This is the essence of what many call the Herod spirit—a spiritual opposition that seeks to destroy purpose, potential, and divine promise before it can fully manifest. Understanding the Herod Spirit The Herod spirit is not...

Fulfillment comes when you understand who you are, who's you are and why you are. Whos you are speaks to the intelligent Creator who caused you to be. Who you are speaks to your identity. Why you are is the purpose for which you were created.  Human beings spend their entire lives seeking the answrts to three questions. Unfortunately many also pass away without having the answers to these three question. There is a reason though. The reason being that, when these questions are answered, the life of a person becomes defined. The grave being the richest place where dreams, goals and unfufilled plans lay dorment, you and i have a choice to answer the three fundamental questions with an intent to die empty. Because, death is sure. It cannot be escaped and all will eventually die. But when we do die, we definitely should die having accomplished the purposed with which God has called us for. Who Am I? This is a question that speaks to identity. It is a fundamental question for self disco...

When two individuals come together you get a FAMILY. When two or more families come together you get a clan. When two or more clans come together you get a TRIBE. When two or more tribes come together you get a KINGDOM. When two or more kingdoms come together you get an EMPIRE. The world currently is ruled by clans. You hear of the Rockefeller family, the Walton Family, the Ambani Family, the Arnault Family, the Saudi family etc. Those are clans. But do you know that in time past, especially in Africa, there were Empires. They are too many to count but I will name a few. The Zulu Empire, the Egypt Empire, the Mali Empire, the Swati Kingdom, the Kingdom of Aksun, Rozvi Empire, Paisa Land, Benin Empire, Ethiopian Kingdom etc. The strategy of the enemy has always been to divide and conquer. Every political and historical fact points out to that. Unless Afrjca unites, we can never rule the world. Gift J Mthimkhulu 9

The law of increase is also called the law of harvest, or the law of use. It is God's will for us to have increase. Increase in our spirituality, mental capacity, skills, knowledge, wisdom, faith, health, wealth and influence. Basically in every areal of our lives we can and must increase. In the book of Matthew 25:15 we find the parable of the talents. The Parable of the Talents describes a man who gave each of his three servants an amount of money, each according to his ability, before he left on a trip. When he returned, he had the servants give an account of what they had done with the money. The first two servants in the parable put their money to work and doubled it, which pleased their master. But the third one was afraid and hid the money so he wouldn’t make his master angry by losing it. However, his master was angry because he didn’t even deposit the money in a bank to earn interest. The master considered him wicked and lazy for doing nothing at all and gave his money to...

Narcissistic abuse usually follows a predictable pattern:  1. Love-Bombing: Overwhelming affection to gain your trust. 2. Devaluation: Subtle criticism and neglect to break your confidence. 3. Discard: Leaving or emotionally withdrawing when you’re no longer useful. 4. Hoovering: Returning to restart the cycle when they sense you pulling away. This pattern keeps you trapped in confusion and self-doubt. You will be filled with a lot of anxiety because you are always second-guessing yourself and your actions. They use this cycle to tighten their graps on you emotionally and mentally.  WHY IT WORKS  Narcissists manipulate your mind and emotions with: - Highs and Lows: The good times make you tolerate the bad. - Self-Doubt: They blame you for their behavior, making you question yourself. - False Promises: They promise change but never follow through. Their chaos becomes your normal. You become unstable so much that instability becomes your new normal.  You want to breako...

In the fast-paced world we live in, where busyness is often glorified and rest seen as a luxury, it’s easy to overlook one of God’s most profound principles: REST. From the very beginning, rest has been a part of God’s divine design for humanity. In Genesis 2:2-3, we read that after creating the heavens and the earth in six days, God rested on the seventh day, blessing it and setting it apart as holy. This act wasn’t because God was tired—He is omnipotent and doesn’t grow weary. Instead, it was a model for us, His creation, to follow. The Jewish people have long observed the Sabbath as a day of rest and worship, a time to cease from labor and reconnect with God. But in the New Testament, we find that Jesus redefines this concept. Hebrews 4:10 tells us, “For anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from their works, just as God did from His.” Christ is our ultimate Sabbath, offering us rest from the labor of striving to earn God’s favor. Through His finished work on the cross, we are inv...